Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
You can’t have a happy and healthy relationship with another person unless you have one with yourself first. That’s just the plain truth.
If you dismiss this idea without taking an honest look at yourself first, it will usually turn out that one or both people will find themselves in therapy at some point down the line-feeling overly dependent and needy of the other person to fill an unknown void in their life. Or, it could be that [Read more…]
It’s a New Year- What Are You Waiting For?
You want to take the next step in your career, relationship, business startup.. or basic happiness in life. But your habit of procrastinating will make sure that you don’t and it is one of the things that makes a difference between you and the top 1{220c12279b6540b704516610486128e7dd9d731914ceff616dd6ab102cedbf62} of people who do achieve their goals. It’s not a coincidence that [Read more…]
Anxiety is the sum total of our contained reaction to perceived guilt and shame. It is needless suffering and not part of our natural state. I believe we are naturally happy, content, joyful and at peace. Anything that happens to disturb that natural state runs counter to who you really are [Read more…]
I recently read this in David Burns, MD’s many books on anxiety and depression. If this is true (and I believe it is) then we need to re-examine our thoughts in order to change how we feel. We stand to gain an awful lot, namely less pain, more freedom and an increased feeling of self esteem.
The thoughts that are in your head about any perceived deficiency you think you have came from a source that clearly does not care about your success. Quite frankly, this voice, wherever it came from, is not true, never has been true about you and is no indication of who you are at your core. Don’t believe it. It’s asking for a challenge, so rise up and prove it wrong!
Fear and anxiety show up in our lives without our formal invitation. When they do, shame and blame can be companions lurking nearby. As a result, the quality of our lives and relationships suffer.
As children, we don’t always learn how truly capable we are in solving problems or handling uncertainty, especially if we aren’t given the chance to [Read more…]