Fear and anxiety show up in our lives without our formal invitation. When they do, shame and blame can be companions lurking nearby. As a result, the quality of our lives and relationships suffer.
As children, we don’t always learn how truly capable we are in solving problems or handling uncertainty, especially if we aren’t given the chance to try and have it be OK to make mistakes.
We end up creating young adults who feel overwhelmed when having to deal with challenges outside their comfort zones. Not having the self esteem yet to admit that they failed at something, they use the example of the people around them to blame others, avoid others altogether, and maybe even self medicate. This creates a population of people who feel shame for merely being who they are-human.
If we could just name the fears we are experiencing to bring them into the light.
Then understand that we will make mistakes going forward and that’s OK because we are proving that we are, like everyone else on the planet, a part of the human race. If we don’t try things, we won’t grow and we’ll never know what our strengths are.
And most importantly, the mistakes we make have nothing at all to do with our inherent value as a person: loving and lovable, worthy of respect at all times and caring and good at our core.